What age generally can kids have a real Input in where they stay?

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My kids are with me 6/7 nights a week. They’re 1 night with ex.
It’s very new. But because of school and sports etc they’re really happy with this. I am too.
I am just concerned he will start looking for more and they won’t want that. It won’t be about maintenance. The money issue doesn’t really arise.
So generally what age can the kids realistically have an input in terms of choosing?

At 12 ds went nc with his df.. It was never argued despite a court order being in place. . Primary school they will be listened to but not given the adult responsibility of making such decisions.. Based usually on who gives the most spends /screen time and no bedtime..

Ok. I think that we’re a distance away from going down the court route. Although that could be in the future.
For now I’m hoping it can all be done amicably. I’m just worried he started saying he wants them 3/4 nights a week and they won’t want that.
Least not now.
I know that can change obviously

12ish

but …. 2 homes can work

if you co parent well, live near each other, can be flexible, both can take to sports etc then going between 2 parents is ok

1 night really is not much….. would you be ok with that ?

We’re half an hour apart. Some of the sports are very early morning and late night and they’re right beside the original family home where I still live.

It won’t be feasible with his work and distance for him to bring them to sports. They’ll have to drop them

Are the sports more important than a relationship with their father? One day is not much.

They’re with him from very first thing Sat morning until Sunday night. And calls whenever.
They don’t seem to want more and one of them has to be very much encouraged

Read up on the Gillick Competency, a stated case about a disabled girl who wanted to a dvocate for her own care. There is no set age, it's more about the individual competency of the child. It sounds like you already have your mind made up about this, I would be very wary of over thinking it or trying to influence them, you may think you have their best interests at heart but you may actually not be achieving that. There's more to life than practical logistics of sports clubs.