My husband is an addict, I'm not sure what at the moment but has been alcohol / crack cocaine in the past. I bought my house before I met him but he has paid the mortgage for 10 years while I have been bringing up our child, being his carer and suffering with ME/CFS. I am now well and working but not well paid after break and can only do school time as am the only caring responsible parent.
He has autism and mental health problems, I have all the money but have to slowly give money back to him 20-60 pounds a day. He tries to control my spending but does not stop me spending on classes etc for my child. He is unpleasant and steals from the house, from me and my child. Sold my jewellery, engagement and wedding rings, and child's electronics. I just want him to leave my home. He won't. He is not usually physically aggressive, but I have ended up with bruises, he uses away from the home, doesn't come back for days. My child despite all this is doing well and loves her home. She makes my life liveable. I try and be a good enough parent for 2.
He threatens to smash up my car so I can't get my child to school. When I've asked for help I just get a visit from social services to investigate me. They decide I am capable of looking after my child. My friends don't know what to say, it's all too awful for anyone to deal with. I am a good person and used to have a great job and I can't believe this is my life. I do not love him anymore and would be happy if I never saw him again. But he is my child's father and I would be scared of her going to his home if he got one. I don't trust him to keep my child safe. I decided to keep going to keep an eye on him but it is unbearable and damaging my child. What to do for the best? I am done with trying to help him. His problems wore me out. I don't have relatives near or friends we can stay with. My child wants to stay in her home.