My stbx has started drawing down his pensions. He is old enough to do so.
we haven’t agreed any finances for the divorce yet. This is his way of trying to make sure he keeps 100% of his pensions. His pensions are worth roughly the same as the equity in our family home.
This is just a continuation of the financial and emotional abuse he has inflicted on me over the majority of the marriage.
I am not old enough to withdraw my pensions and I do not wish to do so and in any case my pensions are significantly less than his.
I know that pensions are not equal £ for £ to house equity or cash savings when making the financial division but as he is drawing down on the pensions in this devious way can I ask for them to be taken into account £ for £. It feels
unfair that I should miss out on both assets now and a comfortable retirement when those pensions were supposed to be for both of us and compensate for me taking out a very long period of time from working to raise our 5 children who we agreed would be home educated until secondary school age.
he has moved to a new apartment and is using the additional income he now has to fund a lavish lifestyle. He will no doubt argue that he needs to draw down on the pensions to afford to live but his salary is more than adequate to house himself if he chose to live more modestly and not in a swanky top end apartment.