Hi everyone
Lookijg for advice.
I am going to leave my partner of 15years and father to my children.
I have heavily relied on him through bringing my children up and, tale as old as time, I haven’t got a lot of money of my own. Although I do refer to him as husband sometimes (ultimately I feel like a pr@ for having a 15 year term “boyfriend”) that’s all he is.
I do work and I have a low-mid salary of £25000 and excellent credit. I only have £7000 saved.
ill also need to buy a car but I suppose that could be financed to protect the money I have saved.
what would you do? Things are not abusive or horrendous at home so I don’t need to jump into this next week - please read my thread if you like some background
I worry if I rent that money will be gone and once I’m in that trap I’ll struggle to ever get a mortgage again. I’m also 40ish so this is the last chance to get a mortgage I’m sure.
but if I do that, it will mean staying for longer which just feels really wrong when I know I want to go because I have to for my future and that of the children.
I don’t have any family help and although he’s been an absent father he’s not a bad father, I wouldn’t be expecting to have custody of the children.
what advice or help can you suggest for me? I feel very alone doing this, with no family to turn to to
talk through it, it seems very daunting. so
im paralysed at the moment not knowing what to do next.