My ex isn’t involved so I have my children all the time but I just wondered what the ideal contact would be for you? I said I would have loved 50/50 in an ideal world but obviously ex would rather not be involved and I was criticised for “only wanting my kids 50% of the time”, I saw someone yesterday being called a “dead beat dad” as he ‘only’ had his children eow 🤔, I’ve seen fathers criticised for wanting 50/50 as it’s only to avoid maintenance (apparently 🙄) or to “punish” their ex. I’ve also seen people not wanting eow and 1 night a week as kids “should have a main home during the week” and I’ve been told that I’m “lucky” because my ex isn’t involved. So what would have been your ideal contact with your children and your ex? Seems every option is frowned upon for some reason or other. It also seems like a lot of women would prefer their ex disappeared after a break up I understand in cases of abuse but often that isn’t the reason.