Ex coming into former marital home

[Nimbus1999]

…. I take it there is nothing I can do about this? Owned jointly, ex hasn’t lived there for 1.5 years and it will shortly be put on the market. He hasn’t contributed towards the mortgage since he left.

He has taken to going in when I’m at work without notice (he refuses to let me know) and taking things / being critical about any mess.

Makes me feel uneasy someone snooping around my things when I’m not there.

you are entitled to change the locks if you lose your keys though! just do it then let him know why and when it was done. he cannot argue with that.

Pack up all his stuff so he has no reason to come into the house. If he still does, I would do what another poster said and get a restraining order for harassment or something. There's no reason for him to be there.

Personally id just change the lock barrel.
Let him take you to court... (he won't.)

I would always have the chain on and door locked when I was at home, so if he tried to enter he couldn't and I'd at least be alerted. I removed all personal/important things in case he did enter the property when I wasn't there which admittedly was often as I hated being there. I think he did snoop once or twice. Took 12 months to sell the property but it was a joy to be out of that situation. It isn't forever.

I put a lock on my bedroom door and had all personal stuff in there so it was a bit of a haven. I still lock it from the inside sometimes to stop DD walking in on me when I'm naked or wrapping presents

I am in exactly the same situation as you! Absolutely hate it… no advice sorry.

So would I. Tell him you lost your keys?

XH did this 10 months after moving out. It's absolutely horrible and I empathise.

XH decided he was actually going to move back in. Gave me 16 hours notice that he was "thinking about it" before actually moving back in.

As I have a great group of friends, a property was found for the chn and I within 4 days to move into. Rent free too. XH was flabbergasted I didn't play his game and completely let rip at the kids and I about how unreasonable I was being.

He couldn't understand why I would not let the children go through the hell that was us living in the same house again. It was all about him.

Strength to you @Nimbus1999 I hope you find a buyer quickly.

If he's co owner he can. That's what I was told. I used to leave my key in the front door and use the back door as he didn't have a key to it.

Later I 'lost' my front door key so had to change the lock. He raised it in Court that i hadn't given him a new key. The Judge slapped him down, as he wasn't living there, he didn't need access. He claimed he did as house was for sale and potential buyers might need letting in. I gave the spare to the Estate Agent instead and requested EA accompanied viewings.

It's a control thing.

He is still responsible for the mortgage, if you stopped paying it, he would be chased for it too.

He's also half responsible for any repairs or maintenance (but that doesn't mean you can decorate or get a new kitchen)

And the council tax (unless you are claiming the deduction)

Unless you have a legal document that says otherwise, he is still responsible for half of it.

So he's also entitled to live there.

Be grateful he's moved out, and he's taking his stuff too.. because I had to force the ex out when he didn't abide by a court order and I still have all his dhit to get rid of.

I think a chat with CAB or your solicitor on the best way forward is best.