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Alcoholic husband drinking again

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usuallyjustlooking · 01/02/2024 23:32

Husband fell off the wagon at Xmas and spoiled it. Now blaming the state of our marriage for his unhappiness. Wanting to sell the house. Shocked really but do agree relationship isn’t great but wasn’t ready to give it up. Don’t want to sell and have asked him to leave for some breathing space. Scared of the future but don’t want to go back to where we were. Feel I deserve better but really sad as well cause it’s all I’ve known and my kids don’t need me

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minimiz · 02/02/2024 00:12

Sending a big hug for you.

What a bombshell for your dh to drop on you. I'm afraid this is typical alcoholic deflecting behaviour where he blamesyou and your marriage on his behaviour do that he didn't have to face his addiction. It is not you and It is not your marriage that caused him to drink. It is all him.

It's scary when you think it is all you have known but hand on heart, have you been happy living like this? I suspect not and his behaviour will not get better. I'm sure there are some wise mumsnetters who will come along and recommend some good books or podcasts to help you begin to process this but you are stronger than you think and deserve to be happy.

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