Separation overnight stay with 6 months old

[Lilicurly]

Hi
The father of my child and I are going through separation. I am totally fine with him having contact with the baby (few hours a day, full day) but I want my daughter to live with me. I am also completely open with talking about overnight stay in the futur. My partner past is really not good as well (mental health issues, police involvement, alcohol etc..) But I refuse completely overnight stay. She is 6 months old and breastfed and I do not manage to pump enough milk. He is insisting in have the baby overnight and for a few days. Is mediation the only issue without going to court ?
Will the mediation make him realise how unrealistic this is. And definitely not in the best interest of the baby ( breastfed, need to be spending the night in the same place, doesn’t have a good sleeping pattern yet etc.. and I could go on and on with reasons )

I have always been doing the night time routine as she sometimes wants boobies, and also because she only want to be rocked by me.

I imagine that no court would grant him overnight stays while she is breastfed (so keep breastfeeding as long as possible). And as you say there are plenty of other reasons why this is unrealistic. But I'm not sure whether mediation would convince him as he sounds highly unrealistic and unreasonable. You are being exceedingly generous agreeing to full days and even this sounds too much to me if she is breastfed and only 6 months, so I imagine not eating lots of solid food yet. It's hard to advise more without knowing what his police record is.

Disclaimer not a lawyer and no personal experience so hopefully someone wiser comes along to advise.

Yes she has just started solids, so she still needs to be breastfed often.

Has he taken any of this to court yet or is he just mouthing off?

No he is just mouthing off, I think he is trying to scare/intimidate me for sure.

Then you can ignore him and his threats.

Men like him are lazy cowards.

If your baby is over 6 months old and therefore old enough to be weaned on to solids courts are starting to see through "weaponised breastfeeding" so I wouldn't rely on "keep breastfeeding as long as possible" as a way to stop overnights

Exactly this, not saying the op is saying or will do this but courts see through game playing

Of course breastfeeding is only the tip of the iceberg and it is not the only reason at all, hopefully we will never have to go to court but this will not be the main subject if we do. She will not be breastfed forever. I am just not comfortable at all with leaving her overnight with him at the moment (considering many other reasons too) As a mother I also feel it will not be in her best interest. Once more I am happy to do this later on when she is older. Spending few hours a day/days with her father seems to be a good start to me. We will see, such stressful time…

op what happened? I have just made a post about this issue for my older baby