Pension Sharing Advice

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Advice needed- I am 2 years post separation I have the consent order sorted with split of house and pensions. Each keeping occupational pensions and I have given STBEH my private pension to him. Final order applied for. Thank you.

I therefore need pension sharing organising via the pension sharing annex. After doing some reading, I realise there is a fee to organise the pension share and this can be thousands.

I have no money left have paid all of the divorce related fees (£4k so far)

Can anyone share their experiences of pension sharing and the costs of this? happens if no one pays the fees? I do not think my ex would pay, even though it is in his benefit. I do have a solicitor, but every email costs more money.

I had a company pension and had to give half to my ex. I'm sure it cost me £600 but this was a couple of years ago.

Also I think it couldn't go ahead without him getting advice from a finacial advisor.

The pension dept of where I worked dealt with it all.

I received shares in 3 of my ex’s pensions. Two made no charge, the third stated that the pension holder (my ex) had to pay. It was £1500 IIRC. He wouldn’t pay so in the end the pension company took it out of his share. (20% to him, 80% to me).

Our consent order stipulated that any charge for the pension share should be split in accordance with the share percentage. It is still in progress, but as far as I know, the pension company are not charging

Thank you for your comments they are much appreciated. The pension is with Scottish Widows.
I have waited so long for this and it has been an awful process all the while being in an emotional straight jacket trying not to upset ex for fear he will put a stop to the process.
I just want this over