Children

[byag1]

Hi everyone

I've just found out my husband has been cheating on me for the last 5 years with prostitutes.

I won't go into detail but I don't feel safe with him around my children (3 girls) given his view on women (evident by seeing prostitutes). He is a sex addict

He has moved out and I have filed for divorce. Am I ok to not allow contact with the children until we go to court? He wants shared custody.

I genuinely have a safeguarding concern having seen the multiple videos of what he has been up to. He is a lawyer so I want to make sure I'm not doing anything wrong.

Thanks

How old are the girls? If they are 11+ ish then they’d be allowed to choose how much contact they had with each parent.

They are 5, 6 and 10.

I have asked the 6 and 10 year olds and they both say they are indifferent about seeing him.

I think you need to get some advice asap!
You could speak to Social Worker and tell them your concerns. Request only supervised contact with the children.

PS: I’ve just re-read your first message
You state that you don’t feel safe with him around “my girls”
If you refer to the children in that way (my girls) when speaking to Court officials or Social Workers you will have a very difficult task ahead of you. They may take the view that you aren’t considering the children’s needs. Please refer to the children as “our daughters” “our girls” “our children “ or simply “the children “. Be very careful about this.

Unless it was involving underage girls which is obviously a criminal matter I don't see how a court would agree with you that he is unsafe to be around your children?
Also I would say the 6 year olds "indifference" to seeing him isn't really reliable. My ex and I separated when my eldest was 6 and initially I would say she didn't want to see her dad because she was protecting my feelings

Thank you everyone. No nothing criminal in fairness. I will take advice.

Sorry but unless you’ve missed out a huge piece of info, visiting prostitutes does not put your children at risk !

I can understand why you are upset completely but making that leap is nonsense

unless there is something missing here you are being very unreasonable and a court won’t agree with you