apologies for the long thread. I feel ill even posting this as I know what the responses will be. I’ve posted before and everyone said to leave the situation but I just don’t know how to or if i can. I’ve been with my partner (I say this very loosely as we literally live together and co-parent). Basically it’s been nearly 20 years of ups and downs. I’m very social, he isn’t. He’s had multiple periods of addiction and we are now in 40k debt 7k of which is in my name. I found out two years ago that he’d spiked my drink on a couple of occasions (I clearly remember each as I honestly thought I was going to die). He admitted it to me just because he had told a mutual friend who rightly so said they would tell me if he didn’t. He said he’d get help and I forgive him and we went on to have another baby (do not regret this as my babies are my life). Since then it’s just crap. We are good as parents together most of the time. We tried initially to work on things but he works from home, doesn’t go out, doesn’t have friends even though people have asked him to socialise he just doesn’t put the effort in. Back in the summer he sent me a long message out of the blue saying how I was to blame for him drinking (I do like a drink but never push him to) and how things have to change. We haven’t shared a bed for years as he said he couldn’t sleep due to my snoring but now says it’s cos I have both children permanently attached. I just don’t know where to go from here. I’m posting this as tonight my daughter asked for something and I said we couldn’t afford it. I then asked my partner how much is actually in my name and he said are u seriously bringing this up now. He’s in a debt repayment plan but I don’t have the logins to my cards so I imagine it’s just the minimum payments being paid. Everyone around me thinks Iv got my act together and the perfect family bit of truth be told of it wasn’t for my kids I think I’d have ended it long ago. This isn’t a cry for help I just need advice or similar stories with happy endings.