Co-Parenting Time

[BoyMama30]

My parenting time - 50weeks
Fathers - 2 weeks (summer and Christmas)

He lives 300miles away (Army), can only see his child for 2 weeks a year.
I currently have no car and he is saying I'm unreasonable for not getting a car so I can meet him half way for his two weeks a year.

It may sound like a pity party but I do everything for our child all year, holidays, school, admin, cooking, clothing, weekends out etc. He calls maybe every other week, to check in.

He is making me out to be a monster for not wanting to meet him halfway, saying everyone he has spoken too has said I'm unreasonable. I know it is a long way to travel but A it's for his child and B it's twice a year. I get no help the other 50weeks a year so I'm a little reluctant to find funding for meeting him halfway.
He has a car and earns 3x what I do, maybe not relavant but he has the money, just different priorities.

I'm starting to lose my mind over this now. He has a history or narcissistic tendencies, controlling, financially abusive and everything else that comes with a military man... Not all are the same I know that, but this one is right up there!

Could you get on a train? I feel like it's a shared responsibility between parents. It shows the children also that you are working together to help them see each parent etc

I wonder what story he told those who agree with him. Surely not the truth.

Your job is to make the kids available, his to pick them up.

Who moved away?

You’re kidding, right? OP does all the parenting - ALL - for 50 weeks a year, but facilitating the fathers 2 weeks a year is a shared responsibility?
OP - this is ridiculous. Tell him you’ll do half the travel when he’s contributing half of all parenting and expenses. Or when he outright purchases and gifts you a vehicle to assist in the other 50 weeks of parenting per annum.
What an absolute twat your ex is 🙄

Of course you don't need to meet him half way, you parent 50 weeks of the year, he parents 2. Anyone that agrees with him is an idiot ( and there's no point arguing with an idiot).

Just stick to your guns and tell him no. If he wants them that bad he will come and get them.

Honestly just ignore the nonsense..

obviously yanbu …

he can make an effort 2 weeks a year . I wouldn’t waste my breath responding.

Parenting is a shared responsibility and he doesn't fuck all of that.

YANBU, what an absolute excuse of a father. Two weeks of prioritising his child.

Not a chance would I travel. As you said 50 weeks a year you do everything. That isn't co-parenting it's practically abandonment!

All you do is make your child available for contact, the rest is up to him.

I'm sure everyone around him will agree with him, because he won't have told them the truth.

I'd only share the travel if I thought he wouldn't otherwise see the child, and didn't want that to happen. If all he's going to do is moan, then let him moan.