Hubby doesn’t spend time

[ILikeEggsAnd]

Hi My hubby is handsome, smart and amazing in many ways. However, he doesn’t spend time with me nor our baby. I’ve tried a lot but he won’t spend time, he wants to do computer all day and night (he’s a computer engineer. He will join me at 4:00am at bed! So I only get him from 4-8am, other times he just does computer and doesn’t even want me in the same room. He says he will spend more time once our baby grows up. I do everything for the baby alone. He also is a big procrastinator and says he will do something only for it to never have happened.

We stayed together before marriage and everything was fine until we married.

What should I do? I keep thinking of divorcing him but I’m scared to grow old alone and I feel quite possessive about him. Not sure what to do…Already tried talking with him, doesn’t help

You've been had. He's found himself a housekeeper, nursery maid (and bill-share?) and can now go back to doing what he liked to do before he met you.

What is he doing on the computer until 4am, and doesn't want you in the room? Gaming? Gambling? Porn? Cam girls? Not that it matters, you can't be expected to live a solitary life, that's just unfair.

Have it out with him, explain that you are thinking of leaving because of his behavior, which needs to change. If he won't change then I don't see you have any option.

If you divorced him, how would it negatively affect your marriage? It wouldn't, because you don't have one other than a signature on a contract.

You don't want to grow old alone, but that's the only option available to you if you stay with this man. You're alone right now. The loneliness of being around people ignoring you is far more painful than being by yourself.

Give yourself a chance at happiness and a chance for your child to grow up seeing a happy mother by getting out of this "relationship". You don't need to worry about him wanting your child 50-50 either, unlike the quandary some women find themselves in.

It's scary to divorce, but really you're just ending a contract, because your marriage is already not what most people, including you, consider one.

I’m not sure anyone else would want him TBH, he doesn’t sound like a keeper.