Separated - he is refusing to share pet responsibilities

[Lizay27]

When i separated with my husband 8 months ago, we agreed that we would each take on two pets as i cannot afford all 4 on my income and now paying for my own place as a single mum. I work pay check to pay check.

8 months later, hes made every excuse in the book not to take 1 or 2. Then said he didnt want them. I told him i would therefore need to rehome them. I found a home for one and checked 4 times with him if he was sure he wasnt going to take 1. A week later, now he wants the pet back from the new people.

I am so angry. I gave him montha, countless opportunities to take the pet. It literally broke my heart handing it over but the reality of finances meant i had no choice.

Just needing to share.

He sounds like a twat. What kind of pets were they? Can understand someone being more upset at parting with a dog than a gerbil or stick insect!

I think you just have to accept he doesn't give shit about the pets. You either have to keep them all or rehome 2 of them.
My exH did this as well. I had to rehome one of the cats. A very good friend of mine took the 3rd cat and I kept the other two. I was furious. It was his idea to get 3rd cat. Luckily she had a brilliant life with my friend and I could visit often. My ex just thought he could Bsndon all of his responsibilities and just bugger off.

There's no guarantee the new owners would give it back anyway.

Tell him to grow up. The pets need a stable home where they are wanted. He didn't want them.

Tell him tough shit. He can't have it back, and don't tell him where it is. He had his chance. He has no right to play with a living creature like this. It doesn't matter what the pet is. It deserves better than him and it's got better than him.

The pet had a lucky escape going to a new home. He sounds nasty and he might have neglected the pet as he clearly doesn't love it. All pets deserve to be loved.

And why would you he will just dump it on you. If he wants it let him sort it. He's a wanker

Its 4 cats and in a tiny apartment along with myself and 3 children. He lives alone.

We actually had no pets at all, and then across 2 years, he picked up 4 strays. I actually told him i wanted none but he promised he would look after them, change their litter etc - it all fell on me! Including finances but with both of us working, it was managable. Now its a different situ.

Quite honestly i am furious and dont intend to share any info

He doesn't really want the pet, he just wants to aggravate you. I would give him the new owner's name and number and tell him he can buy the animal back if the new owners will allow it, but you will not have anything further to do with it.