When will this end?

[Floating83]

I'm not really sure where the best place for this is as it is a big mush of separation, mental health, new relationships etc.
I separated from my husband at the start of last year and it has been a hard year since. I gave him too long to come to terms with things so everything was a really drawn out process. I did it for the right reasons but it has been detrimental to me.
Then he failed to get things in order to purchase the house from me so that delayed me being able to find somewhere new.
We still live in the same home with our children, I feel so trapped, this doesn't feel like my home anymore.
There has been a lull in properties coming to market which is further causing me distress as I can't see an end point.
The separation was due to his behaviour, the delay in me being in a position to buy was again because of him.
I have no family near so can't move out, and rental would be impossible.
He has family close but refuses to leave.
It no longer feels like my home. As soon as the kids are in bed I go to my room because it is the only place that isn't shared anymore. It's soul destroying.

I'm having to manage this alongside my slip into depression because of it and because of the hell of online dating where no one actually wants to get to know me or meet me, possibly put off by my current situation.
I don't know what I can do. I am just in this awful pit with no visible end and it feels like it's destroying me yet I feel I've been the bigger person each time trying to do what is best for everyone else.

I am in the same situation as you so sending you big emotional support hugs. I keep telling myself I will be happier in the long term. I enjoy not having to consult STBXH about going anywhere or doing anything. I’ve no proper advice but you’re not alone xxxx

it sounds tough but divorce is a long tough process and can take a long time. Are there any meet-up groups you can join near you? Maybe you can get out and meet people more rather than date. Most decent people imo won’t consider dating someone still living with their ex, some won’t even date until you are officially divorced, so focusing on meeting people without romance in mind could be the way to go...

Sorry to hear you're in this situation, it sounds tough. I have no advice or suggestions, but it's likely I will find myself in this same situation and I have only just started the whole process.. told my husband I want to separate and he's in complete denial and I can see him dragging his feet with everything. I also have no family nearby and not in a position to move out until this house is sold. For me dating is also impossible until everything else is sorted.

Thanks everyone.
@Tosca23 i have some decent friends who check up on me and I can go for coffee with etc. But I do worry that they must be sick of all this now as it's been so long.
They had to deal with the months before we separated and the year (so far) after.
I get what you mean about dating and still living with an ex. I find any one who I have said to implies that not something that bothers them, possibly because they get it's a financial thing.
I know a lot of people in their late 20s who still live with their parents for the same reason

@itisneverending we have kids so although I don't have to do what he says any more, I am not free to just go and do as I please. And even though I know he is on dating sites (and I expect he knows I am) it's not something I intend to say to him as we aren't divorced yet, things aren't signed and I don't want to cause issues.

@Stuckandunhappy It's hard. Harder than I expected and we are actually fairly amicable. Although I think that's because I give too much room for him to deal with things how he wants to. But I do know there will be an end, I just can't see it.

And as the marriage failed so long ago, I am so unbelievably alone and missing that male connection and touch. It's just so hard trying to stay positive and looking forwards and makes you question your worth.

Just posting to say I hear you. My stbex agrees it's best we divorce but then doesn't actually do anything to move it forward. I'm okay (grumpily) getting the house valued/sold by myself but it's taken him the full 20 weeks to email his pension provider for the cetv. We can't sell until we know % of assets has been discussed but we can't do that until all figures are in...

It's infuriating!

@Pixiedust1234 i feel you completely. My ex didn't start sorting his finances when I said what needed to be done to be ready for me to move out and him to have the house.
He didn't bother.
It's set us back 3 months and now there is nothing for sale. 3 months ago I might have found somewhere and already moved.
He doesn't reply to the mediator, has to be chased for everything.