Can't bring myself to physically file for divorce

[GlitteryDirt]

...but need to within the next month.

I get chest pains when I think about it. I don't have time to be this stressed to follow through and do it.

I've already accepted that we have broken up so not sure why I am having this reaction. It's reasonably amicable and we have agreed on most things. So what's my problem.

How long is the actual application to file for divorce?

Depends where u are and if you have kids under 16

England. Yes two. I mean how long does the actual form take to do

5 mins online if it’s no contest easy to do £550 x

£593 was our cost 12 months ago. The initial form took I dunno... 45 minutes to fill in, max? That includes time xH spent checking it.

This.
What you’re talking about is a divorce Petition. There’s not much to it, especially now all divorces are “no blame”. Not sure I managed mine in 5 mins like the above poster, maybe I was also sipping wine, but yeah, under 15 mins. Tells you docs you’ll need to have to hand.
gov site is great, well explained
It was designed to remove the need for solicitor and reduce costs to folks, and make divorce accessible. You absolutely should NOT use a solicitor for this..you’ll be handing over money for something a 10 year old could do

the financial settlement piece runs in parallel to that. You’ll be best advised to start that immediately. Use ADVICE NOW link in header to understand this especially law on “fair settlement “. It’ll save you a lot of time and stress to get your head around the process now. First step in that process should be financial legal disclosure . Best thing is to not discuss financial situation at all until you’ve done and agreed the financial disclosure piece. You will most likely need a bit of solicitor times to legally draft what’ve you’ve agreed between you at the very least.

then child custody, if applies, runs as a third parellel process. Again ADVICE NOW guides cover this process

obviously all linked. Court will approve all agreements (if you tick relevent box) at same time as final order.

I’d start (and did) with ADVICE NOW to understand how all 3 processes work, and how they connect and timings and terms in each.

Oh and remember…you raise petition…he can’t contest really now. No reasons required
And there’s 26 weeks cooling off if you change your mind, at min, between interim and final order.
Yep, you’d loose court fee of £550 ish if you change your mind, but otherwise it’s not really the big stumbling block to divorce. That’s more likely that fiwncisl agreement process.

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