I was in an altercation with my daughters dad and had to involve the police. Our relationship has ups and downs from the very beginning I just didn't see the red flags. In time, I've become very unhappy but suppressed my feelings and got used to the rhythm of the ups and downs. He attracts trouble wherever he goes. He suffers from serious temper problems however if I was to do a deep dive on him, I'd say he's probably got a mental health issue.
He can be verbally abusive too.
My daughter is on the autism spectrum and also has other needs which meant I had to leave work and dedicate my days and nights to her. This gave an additional challenge to our life. We both have very different ways of parenting, both effective but clashing. His relationship with our daughter is amazing. He was never brought up to do the 'woman' jobs in the home but eventually he adapted.
He as always is remorseful and wants things to work but i on the other hand have felt stuck for a very long time. I probably wouldn't get back with him as his temper is something I can do without.
I live in a different town to my parents who have told me to move there. My issue is my daughters relationship with her dad. They did almost everything together, from playtimes to bath times, she won't stay with anyone but him. I could really do with the family support though as I don't get much time for myself and I've found doing things on my own much more difficult from small things like having to take the bins out to entertaining her whilst I cook. Eventually she will be at nursery but if she is autistic, I'm not sure if she will be in everyday or if she will cope etc. she is also very attached to this home, and never wants to stay anywhere too long.
her dad is banned from driving and I wouldn't be living near public transport though it would not be impossible to see us if someone brought him.