Urgent help abuse

[kalsgirl237]

I left my husband very recently- we have a son and a baby on the way. I left him because I caught him cheating with multiple women - on paying sites too. That was my final straw but I've wanted to leave him for a long time as he's previously abused me very badly. He's always been a cheat which I just ignored and the abuse would get very bad at times - at one point he choked me and threatened to smash a thick mirror into my head. The last time he beat me was a year ago. On one occasion I recorded him with audio whilst we had an arguement in that Audio you can hear the abuse he's hurling at me, telling me he's going to kill me and teach me a lesson. You ca even hear the blows from the beats. In the background is my child who witnessed this all and is crying his eyes out. This audio is from 2 years ago. I want to know what will happen when I report the abuse to police even though it's old and could my child get taken off me because she witnessed the abuse. I have an appointment. Tmoro with wyp and they will be taking my statement pls advise

well done for getting out. Children are only taken from their parents as a very last resort if they are not safe. Never as a punishment foe what has gone before, unless there is no hope of change. Take care 💐

I’m so sorry you’re in this position. You’ve had to put up with so much abuse but you’ve done the right thing in getting out. It often takes a while for an abused partner to leave a relationship, for all sorts of reasons - money, somewhere to go, promises to change, fear of coping on your own.

Well done for leaving, you and your babies are now much safer. Are you staying with friends/family?

Do report him to the police. You have evidence of the abuse and it will help your case further down the line, if he ever wants shared custody or child access. The police see this very often and can deal with it sensitively.

Stay strong and a big unmumsnetty hug from me. 💐

Social worker here, you won't lose your child for reporting abuse.

Children are only removed when the parent with custody won't protect them.from witnessing the abuse by leaving/splitting up with the abuser.

You have done the brave and right thing by keeping them safe and shown yourself to be a great parent by protecting them. Well done you are brilliant!!

Good luck at the police station🙏