Struggling to cope with this ongoing situation. I have no idea why it upsets me so much but my ex constantly wants to change our childcare arrangements to suit him/his family/his work. We have been to mediation after years of this and I thought had finally got there with a set arrangement for what we joinly could agree on for school holidays etc. Since then he has asked for more time every holiday - only ever coninciding with his schedule. We agreed to set days in half terms, he now wants different days in Feb. We agreed specific weeks in the summer. He know has decided those weeks dont suit him.
I feel like I am always the bad guy. I get the vast majority of the shit side of childcare doing all the week day rubbish - homework/bedtimes etc. If I say no, i’m unreasonable and stopping him seeing his kids. If I say yes and change my plans he doesn’t appreciate it and it gives him the green light to do it more.
I always respect his time with the kids - I never make plans on his days and have missed out on plenty of experiences/opportunities I could have had with them because I respect his time with them as important.
Am i being unreasonable for just wanted set dates that we always follow? I would obviously be flexible for special birthdays/weddings/emergencies but I feel like my whole life revolves around his social calendar.