Final order without consent order

[Illbefinejustbloodyfine]

Is this a really bad idea? Separated years. I finally plucked up the courage to start divorce proceedings. I have no money, at all.

Ex took ages to respond, but did eventually. So we have the conditional order. He offered to sign the house over to me (2 young dc that are with me 6.5 days a week, 7 nights) He chased me for progress reports , I got valuations, a mortgage offer , survey, paid application fees etc. And now he seems to have changed his mind. Last act of control.

I'm so done with it. I just want it Iver with but don't have the money to throw at a solicitor.

If I apply for the final order without a financial settlement (at least then I'll be divorced) hoe bad of an idea is it?

He has nothing much to give as far as I kniw, and neither do I. I do have a local authority pension. No savings or assets. Its "just" the house.

(Which, incidentally, is a 2 bed, 150 yr old cottage. 2 DC, leaky roof, cold, all doors windows need replacing etc)

Yes, a very bad idea. I went to my divorce hearing and the judge was surprised, he said rarely do people attend them. I said I took my marriage seriously and felt the same way about my divorce.
The judge's concluding remarks were "I am not permitted to give advice, but today I shall... do not proceed to the absolute without a consent order in place".
I was glad I took it. My ex had gone from saying he would take nothing from me (he arrived with nothing but debt) to threatening that he could get half of my house, the house I'd owned before he knew me and which had been my son's home since birth. He'd already got the OW knocked up.

Crikey I don't think people are reading my posts.

I don't currently have the money to push a consent order with a solicitor. I'd rather NOT have to start the divorce process again because he's been dragging his heels. Thus far I've paid all costs.

My plan is to get the final order before I'm out if time, then save hard and sort the consent order.

I'm not going to wait 25 years to do it.

I'd wait until you can get it sorted in one go. Make your NY resolution to save up for solicitors costs.

I’d save hard now and sort it all in one go. Find a solicitor you can pay in instalments. The actual divorce is cheap. It’s the financial order that costs the money

@Illbefinejustbloodyfine i’m not an expert but from what little I understand, you could lose your shot at a fair financial settlement if the final order happens before the consent order.

you might consider booking an advice call with an organisation called ‘amicable’. They could probably give clarity on this point, and they might also help you find a way forward that is less costly in terms of legal fees.

Thanks, I don't have the time to save now before Im out of time to apply for the final order. I will be taking legal advice, was just hoping someone knowledgeable would respond here.