My conditional order will be pronounced in 2 weeks.......and I'm feeling bluergh

[Cloudymum]

I just want a talk....

After 23 years Relationship (10 years marriage)

I havent cried about us yet..... I'm too angry and too exhausted to cry atm.... im too relieved that i finally took the courage to ask for the divorce this year....as this is the right way to go (my soon to be ex is a gambler and had been for many years)....

I fell out of love before we got married...o was hoping he would changed....but I was done.

Ive met someone a few weeks ago, who is amazing with me, is so kind and understanding, and is so reassuring with me.....but I'm taking it one day at a time.. as i am not ready for a serious relationship.... so we are having fun..

I feel sooooo exhausted right now as its getting towards the end of our marriage. Ex still living with me as he wont move out. Weve accepted an offer on our house to move out at the same time as our divorce is finalised.

I hope i dont fall apart....

Weve got 3 brilliant kids who we love dearly....

well done for being brave and asking for the divorce. It can't have been easy, and it's totally ok to be feeling mixed things right now. I think you're wise to avoid a serious relationship right now but you definitely deserve to have some fun. Are you already living separately? X

Do not finalise the divorce before dealing with finances.
It is upsetting to end a long relationship as you had hoped for a better future but look into the future and be happy.

This is good advice if you haven't got a financial order? Check out the legal queen on YouTube/Instagram/TikTok. She gives really helpful advice about family law that is easy to understand

@sososadaboutthis thank you. We are still living together because he wont move out. (Hes still gambling). Im sleep deprived as barely getting in more than 5 hours sleep along with a job, house and kids to look after. 😒

And thanks for the legal queen. I think ill have a look at it

@JKM66 nearly sorted the financial side of it as im gonna change 1 thing as originally i decided to go for the 50/50 but the more i think about it, im gonna go for 60/40 as hes not been paying his half since July last year, (i was half hoping he save up so we could go on holiday this year but he blew it all) And yes i am aware to sort that out before the divorce.

And YES im looking forward to the future with my kids too....im already planning to start University next year, to better myself. Thank you.

Im so sleep deprived and exhausted. I feel so drained rn.

Its Xmas day tmrw.....ive just gotta get through the day for the kids sake...

Next week, ill get the ball rolling for the 60/40