Teen threatening not to talk to me

[Burgundyandorange]

Seperation is likely to happen sooner or later (probably a while off yet).

Teen dc will be over 18 by the time this happens. Dc senses that I'm not happy and has threatened to never talk to me again if I leave/instigate seperation.

Has anyone else experienced this?

Does teen have ND? Have they explained why ?

No. DC is affected mildly by ND and is thriving in life mainly.

If you don’t assert your right to decide who you have a relationship with your child is going to learn a very bad life lesson.

Tell her this is what you want and explain she cannot demand or force people to do things they don’t want to do using threats. Most right thinking people will walk away from her ultimatums.

Ask if she is willing to let you or anyone else dictate who she wants to live with or not.

Think about what you are doing. You imply the relationship is dead but you haven’t left or separated. Are you dragging things out and delaying change? This might be why it scares her.

I asked my husband for a separation after Christmas after a 30 year relationship in which I was treated very poorly. I've three daughters my eldest who is coming up 21 told me she would never speak to me again. I told her that was her choice but I would be always here for her . Her not talking to me lasted an hour. Do what you need to do. Your kids will move on regardless.

Your daughter is worried about the change of dynamic, understandably. But you need to do what is right for you. End the relationship, she will come around.

I wonder how this child would feel if you told her you would never speak to her again if she dumped her boyfriend who she wasn't happy with.