Husband left family last Christmas - having an affair - loved the OW and hated me to summarise. Nearly destroyed me in the process blaming his affair on my shortcomings so much so I literally couldn’t see what he was doing. Through therapy I have realised this was abuse and I’m moving forward without him. We have two beautiful children, five and two and this is where the issue lies. Since the separation, he only wants to see them in the daytime although will frequently keep them out until after 7pm but then leave them home tired and over stimulated for bedtime. Overnights have been tried but three times now he has brought them home at 10pm in their pyjamas saying they wouldn’t settle! I am absolutely happy to have my children in their own beds: that is not the issue. The issue being is that is just sees himself as someone who takes them out for while and I do the parenting.
I feel so sad for us all as I just didn’t see this being my children’s life.