How to move on?

[aandriri]

Quick back story, we were together 8 years, married for 3, 2 year old. Ex grows cold, no affection but tells me for about a year that he loves me and things will work out. Turns out that was just lies and we break up in October after he tells me he just doesn't love me anymore 🤷‍♀️ I'm heartbroken. He's not. At first I was doing well, even excited for a new chapter. Now I'm stuck in a pit of despair, I don't know how to move on. I'm obsessed with the idea of him seeing someone new, he doesn't see his daughter regularly and seems to be enjoying his "freedom". I just don't know what to do to move on with my life. I am stuck. Is there any support out there?

Time. It takes time. Everything you are feeling right now is valid and perfectly normal. Try and focus on yourself. Do things you enjoy that enrich you. Say yes to things. Meet new people. Even if you don't feel like it and you can't stop obsessing over what your ex is doing. Gradually and slowly at a time right for you, you'll get pleasure in doing other things and then one day you'll suddenly realise you've not thought of him all day. You have to make yourself the main focus.

Thank you for your reply ❤️ I know it takes time. It has only been 2 months since we split so it is still early days, I guess I feel like he's moved on and I'm stuck, but maybe he had already started to move on when we were together, who knows. In the beginning I had so many plans to do all those things, but I guess this time of year just feels hard. I wonder if there are any support groups or books that might help spark that positivity again? I've just logged out of social media for a bit, I think that will definitely help.