Separted in July and moved out of the family home 4 weeks ago to live with my parents as it was becoming to toxic. Nothing physical but some mind games and telling me in the end it would be better when I had moved out. Working through finances so I can get my own house and doing 50/50 child care at the moment.
My DD is 9 almost 10 and is very regularly refusing to go to her Dad's. She has a tummy ache and won't go to school the days he is due to pick her up. I have said its not acceptable to miss school she needs to be in and we will sort out any worries she has after school.
When I question her she says she prefers to be with me, misses me and feels safer with me. I can't get any further than that after talking to her.
Husband has in the past given her silent treatment (only a couple of occasions) and he has never cooked, cleaned for them up until I left.
He says he absolutely wants his 50% and I need to make her go to him on his agreed days. I really don't like that though and have been trying to get him to compromise to help her settle.
If I tell him it's not working and it needs to be more like 60/40 will a court take her views into consideration.
I don't think she likes him very much.