Can I get financial support?!

[onthebrink23]

You lot are usually the best to ask..
separated from STBXH in August. Still stuck living together. He hasn't worked in months & months. (Mental health now "my fault"). We have the house on the market, but money is near to gone. I work PT. Is there anything I can do until the house sells? He's using the money as another reason to be so spiteful/ control. I'm literally on the brink. We have 3 kids to support. I can't get extra hours at work due to childcare. (Don't ask why he doesn't do those bits... 🙄) I mean, are there any benefits?! Do I try a loan?! Wish he'd go back to work for so many reasons, but if I suggest that, I'm using him for money. Thought ending a marriage would be the hard bit.

It sounds like you are still sharing finances? I’d stop that immediately. Split them and he has to pay his half, rather than him seeing it as him contributing. You aren’t together, so your money isn’t shared. Are all the bills in your name?

Have you checked on entitied to?
can you go back full time and claim help with childcare costs ?

whetecare you in the divorce process and financial settlement?

You would both need to be working to claim help with childcare I would think. Unbelievable that he won't even help with this. I think your only option would be to separate finances completely and claim as a lone parent but as you are still living together this would need to go to a Universal credit case manager to make a decision as to whether they consider you a lone parent. You can of course claim UC as a couple as long as savings are under 16k. I would imagine on your part time earnings and with 3 kids you would qualify ?

Oh thank you. I did get told to go for UC but it said we both had to apply & hard to broach with almost no communication.
I teach so couldn't just pick up extra hours that easily. He's using savings to pay mortgage etc. Everything in joint name but he's always sorted it. I think I need to go back to solicitor. It just costs so much!

Try asking Rights of Women for help and advice?

You can apply as seperated under one roof for UC. You have to show you're seperated, so friends and family would need to know you're seperated, not sharing a joint account for money, each doing your own shopping and cooking, seperate rooms things like that.

If he's not working and not doing childcare I'd document that so he can't claim he's the SAH parent. Keep a record of what he does and isn't doing.

Op try the entitled too website as suggested. I’m in a similar situation but my ex has moved out, he does pay me maintenance but the entitled website reports I can claim UC so I applied. It takes 5 weeks whilst they consider, just do the application & see.