Separating as a stay at home parent

[Newyou24]

Hello all I need some advice
I'm a stay at home parent and my marriage has broken down. We co own our house but I don't want to stay in the home and the children will be staying here with their father. Where do I start I've no money as I'm financially dependent on my stbx. Will the house need to be sold? I've emailed rights for women this morning and also citizens advice but other than this I have no idea?thanks

Well, he should buy your half from you if he's staying in the house.

Why are you leaving?

Yes, you need to work out where you are going to live going forwards, and who the DC will live with. If it is not you, then you will need to pay maintenance to the other parent.

So in short, you need to get an income stream ASAP (employment being the most usual, as it takes time to grow your own business, and windfalls never turn up at the right moment)

You need to take advice from a solicitor about your specific circumstances. It will help to keep this as short/relevant (and therefore less expensive) if you have amassed relevant info beforehand - such as house valuation, amount left on mortgage, other major martial assets (savings and other high value items) and pensions. Also debts.

One solution might be for EX to buy you out of your share of the house. As you have been a SAHP, you might get a higher share than 50% to counterbalance loss of earning power and gap in pensions contributions. But there are many factors which can influence the child arrangements and the financial agreement, and it is crucial to get specific advice. If you need to keep the costs down, once you have some idea about how the land lies, do as much by mediation as possible.

What happened op? Can you tell us more about your situation? I am presuming they are your kids too.

It’s unusual for the sahp to leave, wouldn’t it be better for the dc for you to stay if you’re used to their routines?

Can you afford to see a lawyer for an hour to work out your entitlements?

Hope you add more details buy yes, you can apply for a forced sell but this can drag on and on so you are best to sort your living situation first and I hope you aren't seeking spousal support as some do(you chose to leave)