My husband had an extramarital affair. It never manifested into sex as I found out in the planning stage. There were hundreds of messages, naked pictures, plans to hook up. Our relationship was hanging by a thread beforehand anyway. We have had counselling and it has not improved things. The trust is gone.
I genuinely feel like he hates me and only wants to save the marriage because it’s easier to stay. Financially also he would not be able to live in the area we currently live in.
He has mental health difficulties. It has been a very difficult relationship and I have ignored many red flags. He is aggressive and emotionally abusive, often ignoring me for days. We have two children. He is obsessed with one child and has a difficult relationship with the other. I think she reminds him of me actually.
Sexually, we are not matched. He shows no affection but turns all contact into pressure to have sex. If I don’t sleep with him he sulks for days.
I feel broken.
if anyone has any words of support or has been there I’d really appreciate it.