Hand hold, why does it hurt so much

[DeeDee20]

Hello all. I just need to vent, it hurts so much.
currently 2 sessions into couples counselling and it’s just so obvious husband despises me and just wants to stay together for the convience of our 2 year old son. He’s nasty to me, constantly angry at me for being me and doesn’t shy away from telling me. I know I need to leave, it means uprooting my whole life. I’m only working part time due to nursery fees so would have to leave London if (when) we seperate. I’ve been so unhappy for a long time but letting go is jsut so painful even though I know it’s the right thing.
thank you for hearing me out.

Hey, sorry to hear you are struggling, it's awful position to be in.

Couples counseling doesn't really work in that situation because all that happens is everything is turned on you.

It's hard and not always so simple but if you are in an abusive marriage you should seek help from women's aid, they will listen to you and advise.

Don't worry about your child either, a toxic environment is damaging to everyone including them and children adapt to change should you leave.

I'm sure others will add but also the relationship board is I think a bit busier if you wanted to post on there :)

Sending a hand hold. I totally understand how you are feeling. My husband left yesterday, he had been having an affair but our relationship hasn’t been great for a while. It’s really, really painful right now but already I can see that living as we were for another 20 years would have been horrible and hopefully you will see that too. Sorry it’s not much advice but keep posting as I’ve already had some great support on here x