Classic revenge moves by ex

[Hardheadedwoman39]

Just that.... I am in the midst of hideous break up and thought about compiling a 'top ten' of his revenge moves....

What are the best/worst you've experienced?

To start off:

cancelling the WiFi and not telling me so I couldn't work.

Removing all the fire sticks for the TVs

Sending back all the kids dirty washing after every weekend.

Surely no good can come from this thread.

Let's not be giving abusers any ideas now....

One day none of this will matter to you.

This.

No more please.

It was a thread to commiserate - not sure why this reaction?

Which part of "let's not give abusers ideas" are you not understanding?

There is no reason to be rude - I suggest you don't join threads just to do that

You asked "not sure why this reaction" when it has literally just been stated why.

So I repeated it, as you strangely seemed unsure.

That's not rude. That's myself and another having to explain something three times between us.

I suggest you avoid telling people where to post.

This is such a weird reaction to a thread by a woman looking for kindred spirits who’ve endured a fucking awful break up.

Silencing her and accusing her of giving abusers ideas is bullshit. 😳 by that logic no one should ever talk about any shit or abusive behaviour by the partners or former partners, which would kill off most of Mumsnet.

I suggest you avoid telling people where to post.

Also has the irony escaped you Crumpet as you try to shut down a woman’s thread…?

I don't know. I could talk about some of the dirty tricks I saw when I did my Family seat and how all of then backfired.

Getting revenge on an ex almost always involves a lot of blowback.

Thank you @Hibiscrubbed that was where I was coming from and yes it is rather ironic....

@FSTraining I think most of the things my ex is doing will ultimately back fire. It's mainly sad as a lot things affect the children which people often don't realise.

She mentions a "top ten list" of revenge abuse.

Which I am the third poster to point out, it's not the greatest idea to create a handy list to fall in the wrong hands.

Sorry you think that the risks that come with providing a list for abusers to get ideas from is merely "bullshit".

I don't. And going by the thanks on my post, so do others.

@Hardheadedwoman39 You can safely ignore @ChristmasCrumpet I do.

If people don’t like the subject or content they are free to leave the thread

you think abusers sit looking through mumsnet for a list ? Hardly. A true abuser will already have a ton of tricks up sleeve

not me but my sisters ex cancelled the children and movie channels on sky but left sports when he left the house, kids were around 5-6 at the time.

he also stopped all payments to mortgage, bills etc leaving my sister high and dry having to rely on parents in the interim

@millymollymoomoo so true, they need no ideas, it comes naturally. Your sisters ex sounds like mine. What is it about TV packages 😂?!

I know an abusive ex who removed most of the fuses from the fuseboard to try and make my friend move out.

@Gingerkittykat that's downright bizarre. And could actually have back fired