I just want to move home!

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I’m so fed up of my marriage. I want to leave. I just want to move back to my home area.

But we have a 10yr old and 14yr old who are settled in school. I don’t want to cause upheaval for them, moving them out of their school or area they have grown up in.

I feel so lonely here. No close friends, no family…. I would have both of these things if I moved back home.

I’m currently sitting in the car a bit further down the road from the house after an argument because I have no where to go. No one to depend on.

Sorry to hear you are struggling.

You need to think how this is affecting you too and whether you can continue as you are. Although you feel like you don't want to uproot the children, which I understand, if the situation isn't healthy then that may affect them more in the long run.

I take it things with your husband aren't great and moving is not on the table?

Also, the relationship board is a bit busier I find just in case you wanted to post there too.

Keep your head up in the meantime!

Thank you x

I was unhappy in my marriage for years but I thought I could endure.

Eventually I couldn’t, and I knew I had to say/do something. We are now divorcing.

Eventually, if nothing improves in your marriage, you will make the jump. And even though you will still care desperately about your children and school etc, you will know that you have no other choice but to leave, come what may.

Knowledge is power, so find out what your situation will be if you leave/divorce. That includes finances, schools housing, etc. having a plan will make you feel like you have more control in your own life.

Then the only thing left is the timing. But when that time comes you will be ready.

If the children are settled at school could you leave them with you husband and sort out custody based on them staying with him during term time? At 10 & 14 they should be able to have an opinion.

I disagree with others

if your children are happy and settled ( esp the 14 yo) I think it really selfish to move them

egats special about the area ? I get you might not have family near, but you can make friends, join clubs, volunteer, get hobbies etc where you are now. What’s stopping that ?

I agree, it is very selfish. We moved because the schools were better. It would be stupid to move them back half way through.. esp for ds who is in yr 9!

I have set up a goods life here. Coming up to 10yrs. Good activities, some friends, good work life.

But my marriage is struggling atm and I just have no one close enough to me as support.

I very nearly drove the 3 hrs to my mums house this afternoon. But couldn’t as my dd has her birthday party tomorrow and I’m in work on Monday!

You need to build the support network where you are
what if your 14 yo refused to go and instead stay with her dad ?

It’s so hard to build one! The one I had took decades and consisted of old school/uni friends. Work colleagues in job that ate in to spare time… sporty! It was so easy to build this pre children too.

I know I can’t move. I won’t be anytime soon. It wouldn’t be fair