Divorce specialist in Fleet, Hampshire

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Does anyone have any personal recommendations of a good divorce specialist who will advise on what I am entitled too from my ex who I was married to for 14 years, together for 19, two children at secondary school. I don't believe he is paying what she should in child maintenance each month but as yet, I have not had sight of his financial records. He does not want me going any where near his pensions saying I should have invested more wisely, err hello, I was brining up our two children so could only work part time and thus my contributions were less. We are about to go to mediation but I'm worried I won't be given all the advice and information I need to make informed decisions or will be pressured to accept something that is less than fair.

He's wrong. The default in a long marriage is 50-50 of combined pot of assets (including any savings/ investments/ equity) and pensions. Non financial contributions such as those made by someone taking a career break/ working p/t to be primary carer of children carry equal weight. He's in for a shock but I would let the mediator deliver that news to him!

Don't mess around with private child maintenance arrangements - go straight to CMS as he has to declare his pre tax income to them and they have the means to check and deduct at source if he doesn't play ball. It takes away the control.

You will both need to do full financial disclosure as part of mediation or, if that breaks down, as part of financial remedy proceedings in court. You have to provide 12 months of statements for all acts and investments and show payslips. It's called Form E. For PAYE it makes it difficult to get away with much. However if he is self employed or contracting it is far easier for them to hide things and reduce CMS. Trust in the process.

Good luck!

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The default is not 50:50

which be entitled to a fair share of assets which could be more or less than 50% friending in your circumstances

pensions will be considered

phone around s few solicitors and go meet a few tk get a feel of who will work best/ not always a ‘rootweiler’
Often you need someone who is realistic, compromising, but fair rather than one who’ll drag out with unrealistic demands

both of you will probably end up worse off and unhappy with the outcome