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Trauma bond

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teddy999 · 26/09/2023 22:15

My husband assaulted me in that he grabbed my arms and refused to let go,this caused bruises on my arms,he did this infront of our 6 year old
I contacted the police and he’s not supposed to be near me the house or contact me
he’s told me we should try again and seems to have forgotten the violence and all the emotional abuse and gaslighting
I don’t seem to be able to make him see that I am no longer accepting his behaviour
he was here the other night asking for sex, there is no chance I am sleeping with him , why can’t he see how serious his behaviour has been and that this time I will not just smile and move on because he has moved into the calm phase of the abuse cycle, he says we should try again for the sake of our child and that we can be really good together, we can be but only until he flares up again and becomes abusive for no apparent reason
he needs to see how damaging his behaviour has been and that I will not just gloss over it this time

his court case for assaulting me has still to go ahead in a few months
what then

OP posts:
lulu1311 · 26/09/2023 23:03

Hey op,

As you said it’s not only damaging for your 6yo but also on you. I am sure you already know, it’s not on for anyone to lay a finger on you.

Do you have a good support system and someone you can talk to?

It’s never that simple but if he has done it once, I can only assume it won’t be the first or last time.

Please be strong for yourself and your little one, get all the support you need.

Here if you need to talk.

Stay safe x

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