Just that really, they separated 4 years ago, been living apart for most of that, initially as a trial separation but clearly now permanent. He's been trying to get her to agree to divorce for well over a year but no luck, and he's suggested he put in a sole application, her response is to say if it wasn't for the kids (they have 50-50 custody of 2DC) she'd kill herself to solve the problem. The daft thing is, she prompted the separation by having an affair. She's apparently intimated similar before but not as explicitly as recently. He feels in a complete stalemate, he wants - needs - to move on but feels guilty for pushing it. How on earth can I support him in dealing with this?