A thread for people in limbo

[Beezar]

Roll up , roll up if you are separating but are still living with your soon to be X.

My H fessed up on Friday night that he was off and that he has already reignited his love life as a result.

Now I’m in the horrendous situation where we’re still living together, our teenage kids don’t know no-one else knows coz they don’t know And he hasn’t even started to look for a place yet.

I might have two months of this before he goes and it’s out in the open.

its driving me nuts already.

anyone else? Any advice? I’d love to get a little clan of other unfortunates together for mutual support whilst we ride out the journey together

Tell me about it.

I have a final order that said he had to be out in 12 weeks. Those 12 weeks were up a few weeks ago.

He's still flipping here.

He knows I'm prepared to go to court, and he'll be paying, but still fails to grasp the situation.

Getting a rental property is hard. You don't pick and choose. You apply for anything that fits your budget and apply and hope you get chosen.

This doesn't seem to have sunk in yet.

I need him out for my sanity, my finances and that of my teenage daughters.

Its just all consuming and I'm exhausted.

I left my marital home for a council house - was stuck living with him for 8 months until I could move. Understand the hell well.

Oh my god. What are your coping strategies? Your life is not your own until STBX is gone. Do your teenage kids know @Iworkmiricles ? @LarryStylinson you must have been at your wits end.

Eldest teenage off to uni so she can have her own room.
They know their dad should have been gone, they want their dad out because it's uncomfortable at home.
My strategy so far have been a new man in my life so I can actually feel human and wanted and loved, that I have not felt for years.
The stbx (?Stupid bstrd ex? ) and I have been in separate rooms for over three years. I have known about the trans thing for nearly six years. The marriage has been dead for years.

I cope because I have to and I have two amazing daughters who will have pre nups and better advice on mortgages and housing.

Not really coping as signed off work.

Bloody hell @Iworkmiricles that sounds bloody intense. Is you soon to be X (or stupid bastard X if you prefer!) trans or is it one of yout children?