I have a poor relationship with my exh. He is high conflict and controlling and traditionally won't agree to any changes to the court order (even where the order states there must be flexibility -ie. Drop off is 'between 4.30 and 5'. I asked he if he could get there at 4.45 to make it less of an insane rush to get DC to football training-he replied he didn't need to get there before 5 and has since made sure he arrives at 16.59 every single time-done though the dc say they are just sitting around doing nothing before setting off-that sort of vibe all the time from him.
I would like to discuss changing some aspects of the court Order which are currently not working-pick up time and travel times are preventing me from being able to work full time for example. I've completed my MIAM with a mediator and she has sent him an email to ask him to complete his. (He had previously said he would mediate in a sort of 'bring it on' sort of way). Since receiving her email he has emailed me to say he will not mediate unless I tell him what I want to mediate about and that he won't do it unless I pay for it.
Telling him what I want to mediate about would defeat the object of mediation. He has shown time and time again that he can't reasonably discuss anything to do with DC. That's why we need the mediator in the First place. I don't want and can't afford really another round of court.
Does anyone have any advice at all? I feel so stuck!