How do you deal with them 'dating' when you still live together?

[PenelopeLongbottom]

Ex and I split 8 weeks ago after 18yrs (bar a 6 month separation in 2021)
Solicitors involved, it's going to get ugly, I can tell.
He was on tinder literally straight away, arranging dates, hooking up in hotel rooms with women from work and god know what else? He left for a date at 10am this morning and says he won't be back here tonight.

How do you deal with it?

Accept he's moved on and concentrate on you. As long as he's not bringing anyone back to house I don't think there's anything else you can do.

Sounds spiteful.

At least he's doing it out of your sight though... the best way over your last is with your next.

I'm not sure what bothers me most, the out and out flaunting it or him lying through his teeth to the kids.
Up until a few weeks ago I was still cooking him dinner ffs!

I am going through a divorce (18 months and counting), I don’t feel comfortable dating until I am divorced. Sounds like he’s on the rebound and/or trying to make you jealous.

Sounds like he is over sharing. He needs to stop telling you where he is going. It would be polite to say when he will be back but he doesn’t need to tell you he is
seeing some one else.

Ask him if he had a nice time and was a nice woman/man? Act completely unphased. That will wind him up as its text book antics to make you jealous.

Can you clarify if you're happy with this split?

If you're happy with it - be pleased he's out the house for that long and someone else has to sleep with him

If you're not - then this is unfair and cruel.

I wasn't, we ultimately split because we weren't getting along and then he said some pretty nasty things when drunk one night, some things I will never ever forgive him for. Now I see his true colours, I realise is its the best thing for me and my kids.