How long did it take you guys to swallow the pill (hardest pill to swallow) that the life you had planned for your kids hasnt gone as you so badly wanted it to?
As we know, especially those that come from split parents the the negative affects it can cause, obv we all go into hoping to be mature & level headed but it’s way easier said then done when push comes to shove.
My kids are babies, it kills me to know that they will never rememeber us being together, the happy memories we will likely forget in time too. The reality of New Romantic relationships, the complexity of harboured feelings of love or resentment.
The handing over of your children from they’re home, to the other home? The future arguments about money, or time with kids etc.
coming from a broken household as well as mostly everyone that I know, it kills me that history has repeated itself. And I can’t seem to swallow that pill - I feel like I’ve failed my kids. And I don’t trust that my ex won’t do the same, as he’s failed me, disappointed me, let me down, and after time he’ll likely repeat with them - and I chose this person, my soul mate knowing the life lesson drilled into me ‘be careful who you have your kids with’ yet, it’s scary how people can change.
I don’t want my kids to feel let down.
I’ve let them down, I didn't pick right or I didn't see past what I wanted to see - I misjudged character - and my children will suffer for it