Kids' dad is buying a much bigger new house

[Eminator75]

Hi all. First time writing a thread here. Desperately want to seek some advice from others who might have gone through this. I have two daughters, 10 and 14, who spend their time equally between my ex husband and me. I rent a 3 bed with my new partner and my ex is about to move into a new build 4 bed which is beautiful compared to my quite ramshackled rental. My ex earns 3 times what I do and I constantly feel like I'm compering with him. I've tried to make my rental as cosy as possible (my 14 year old even has the biggest bedroom) but I just know that they're going to hate staying here once they're in his new place. Friends have told me 'a house is a house but a home is a home' but firstly they've not been through it and secondly kids are fickle things! It's really eating me up inside. Any advice on how I can get some perspective?x

My ds (15) doesn't notice what's around him. He notices food, his Nintendo Switch and his books. And his bike. I honestly think I could ignore his room for a year and he wouldn't notice.😃

The things that matter to DCs are fun, food, light-heartedness, being able to relax and invite their friends round. Going to Daddy's house won't be any fun at all if the new girlfriend is house proud, moans about fingerprints on the walls or crumbs on the sofa.

Relax and focus on making your home warm, comfortable and welcoming. Tatty round the edges doesn't matter.

Thank you - I appreciate your words.xx

i sold a 2m house when I separated. Bought a much smaller house. My teens love it hete compared to the old one. Honest it doesn’t matter. They want love and fun and a home. Size does not matter when it comes to houses. They bring their friends round, something they’d never do before, and see it as hone not a house

ExH is much wealthier than me. He’s also a knob. The kids see that. yours will too.

I have a smaller house to my ex and my two sons prefer being at mine. My house is home. Their dads is just a house they stay at twice a week. Doesn't matter the size OP.

I had the same worries as you, my kids love our tiny, average house. Their dad has a huge fancy house with a big garden. They prefer my house! For them, they are here the most and it's what feels like home.

A house is a building that people live in.

A home is a place filled with important things and those you love.

The appearance and size are far less important than the contents.

Thank you so much everyone. I don't really have any friends in a similar situation so hearing from people who are has really helped!x