He admits to seeing another woman

[hapus2023]

My ex husband has admitted tonight that he has been in a relationship for the last few months with another woman.
Don't get me wrong, we have separated but we are still living together for the sake of our children and his elderly mother (who lives with us)

Our 20 year marriage has been dead for several years and we have spoken many times about moving on but would wait until the kids had finished school.
I feel a little sucker punched tonight when he confirmed he had been seeing someone. I accused him of making her a priority, which was a degrading and throw away comment because he adores our kids and is a phenomenal Dad. But I was actually hurt and maybe a tiny bit jealous.
There isn't any real reason for this message other than asking is it ok to be sad?

No it’s ok to be sad and also disconcerted. This relationship is destabilising for the family whether or not your feelings are dead.

I think it is time to take a deep breath and ask for a conversation about where that leaves things. Nothing wrong with telling him it has upset you and that you are confused.

I don’t think the accusations and blame game are the place to go if you want to maintain this arrangement. But this development has created cracks in something that was delicate to begin with.

Agree with lemon

use it as a chance to talk about formal separation, separate living arrangements and where you go from here

Thank you

Thank you