The 'sentimental' stuff

SataumaMeddler · 2023-08-25T10:48:26+00:00

What do you do with stuff like wedding albums and memory frames? I'm reluctant to keep but aware they are part of my DC's history.

RaisedByHedgehogs · 25/08/2023 11:55

I’m having the same thoughts and have now put mine in a box in the loft. I was so tempted to throw them away, but also I quite like that I have my parents’ wedding album (very acrimonious divorce many years ago.) I also like how happy & pretty I looked on the day! But it’s complicated.

ComtesseDeSpair · 25/08/2023 11:58

I’ve never seen (or much wanted to see) my parents’ wedding photos, except the one they kept on the sideboard for years. An entire album isn’t likely to be of interest to DC, I’d go through and select a handful of ones which are most likely to be of interest (ones with grandparents and other older relatives they may appreciate memories of, a couple of nice shots of you and ex looking happy) and shred the rest. Same with other photos - keep a small number of family group ones or anything they’re likely to have particular memories of.

Stratocumulus · 25/08/2023 12:05

ComtesseDeSpair · 25/08/2023 11:58

I’ve never seen (or much wanted to see) my parents’ wedding photos, except the one they kept on the sideboard for years. An entire album isn’t likely to be of interest to DC, I’d go through and select a handful of ones which are most likely to be of interest (ones with grandparents and other older relatives they may appreciate memories of, a couple of nice shots of you and ex looking happy) and shred the rest. Same with other photos - keep a small number of family group ones or anything they’re likely to have particular memories of.

I mostly did this. ^
I selected the photos I liked best, not too many, put them in a little folder and ditched the rest including the album. Life’s too short to hoard too much.

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SataumaMeddler · 25/08/2023 12:12

Thank you! It's helpful!. The worst part of this nevermind the sodding emotional trauma seems to be the never ending admin 🤦

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Hermanfromguesswho · 25/08/2023 12:14

My parents had a horrible divorce. They threw away pretty much all photos and memories etc. My Nan sneakily kept their wedding album and gave it to me when I was an adult with children of my own. I love having it. For that reason I have kept my own wedding photos and keepsakes even though I am divorced myself. My children might like them (or even just to look at them) one day

Circe7 · 25/08/2023 12:31

I think at least some of this stuff should be kept. My ex’s father left when he was a toddler (and then committed suicide) and my ex doesn’t even know what he looks like or what his family on that side looked like as his mum threw everything away. I think it was quite damaging to him to have zero connection to his biological father even if he was never going to have a relationship with him. That’s obviously an extreme example though.

I also think even if you’re feeling raw about all this stuff now you still might want to look back on it one day as part of your history.