Hiya, long story short I bought a house with my now ex last year in May.
He was abusive mentally and verbally and it got to a point where I couldn't function so I left. For reference, we're not married and no kids.
When we bought our house it was unfortunately mis-sold to us, that is to say that the vendors hid a dispute with the neighbours over an easement that goes across our garden and we soon found out about this when we moved in. We had been told it was a nothing issue and was sorted, nothing came up in the searches of any concern.
To move forward we got a litigation solicitor, made enquiries with a barrister about the easement and we have a clear way forward to sort the neighbours concerns out and also to claim damages against our conveyancing solicitors and vendors which is expensive, stressful and lengthy.
My ex is still living in the house (because he outright told me to get out and that things were over with us and was making my life impossible),and he is basically just obstructing every attempt I make to move things forward with the legal stuff.
He is paying the mortgage right now and I have put all the bills in his name while I went to live in a room share. My family solicitor told me to give him several options:
- Leave and we both pay the mortgage
- Stay and pay the mortgage and in return I wont' claim occupational rent
All while we get through the legal stuff so that we can put the house on the market.
I am trying to carry out our solicitors instructions and putting him on copy for all correspondence, he is telling estate agents and surveyors to disregard my emails because the house "isn't going to be for sale".
He will not buy me out. He refuses point blank. He refuses to take part in any of the emails with our solicitor instead choosing to email me and tell me that he's making non-essential improvements and that I will not gain any benefits from them when the house is sold unless I contribute (the house is jointly owned).
He has also told me that if I email our joint solicitor (even with him on copy) without speaking to him first I will be paying all of the bills they send.
What do I do? I want to move on with my life and he's just obstructing me at every turn and telling me I'm a toxic and narcisisstic person. I literally just want to get the house sold and move on with my life because i'm 39 and living in a room share with a house I cannot live in or visit!