Been with partner for 11 years, we have a 7 year old and 8.5 month old. Things haven't been good for a while, the reason I stayed and had another baby is because things had improved, but I've noticed a pattern and it goes crap again. I think the final straw for me was last week when he raised his voice at me in front of the children and my 7 year old was saying "stop arguing, calm down" (i wasn't raising my voice back) and 2 days later when he swore at me and called me a c**t because i asked him to do something. I've had enough and want out, but I am terrified. We are not married, but jointly own our home. I work part time but on maternity leave, due back in December. I don't know where we will live, how we will afford it and I am scared I'm going to ruin my kids lives. Do I stay until the youngest is a little older? We have just renewed our mortgage for 2 years also.