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Divorce/separation

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Getting ready for a separation whilst being ill

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ReadySteadyGoNow · 13/08/2023 18:11

Background:
For many reasons, DH and I need to split up. He is not nice to be around and has been trying to railroad me into taking decisions that would be highly detrimental to me. Me being ill has just compounded issues that were there before.
I’m medically retired now and only have a very small pension plus PIP.
H is somehow my carer in that he cooks and clean which I couldn’t reliably do for myself. Living alone I would need some support. A cleaner and someone to help me do some prep for cooking the meals. I think I could get away with a cleaner once every two weeks and an assistant once a week for 2 hours?

So my questions is: what can I do to get ready for that split? If anyone has any pointers that would be great.

im wondering about pushing for a cleaner so it’s a known and established need.
Im currently receiving support for my condition so I’m hoping to see with them if I could get eligible for a PA if we are separated (I’m assuming that until then H is supposed to fill in that gap).
im looking at ways to make my day to day life with as little reliance on H.
And ofc i’ll be booking an appointment with a lawyer to see exactly where I stand re the financial implication of the divorce.

Anything else?

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ReadySteadyGoNow · 13/08/2023 19:44

Anyone?

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StealthedDefender · 13/08/2023 20:25

Is he aware that you want to split up? Whilst I can't offer any advice, I would be looking to get the assistance in place as soon as possible. Hopefully someone else can offer some advice.

ReadySteadyGoNow · 13/08/2023 20:34

Things haven’t been good for a while but I suspect he is going to look at me with wide eyes…. He is very good at playing the ostrich.

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