No progress in divorce after 3 years

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Hi,
I am continuing to spend anywhere between £400 and £900 a month on solicitor fees with no progress being made as stbx is digging his heels in and offering me a much lower sum than he’d get. I have the child under 18 with me and he hasn’t paid any child support. Divorce has been going on 3 years and I’m struggling emotionally and financially. I’m stuck in limbo living in the family home. My job is now under threat as we’ve had official notification of a restructure. I will have to apply for my own job, be redeployed or down graded. I have worked hard for my position and salary (which I now need more than ever).

I have already switched solicitors once and I’m still no further forward.

What can I do? Both of us submitted form E a while ago but there is constant nit picking about what stbx spent some of his pension withdrawn on (which I have no idea).

I am now worried about costs if this goes to court. I’ve already spent £15k and won’t have time to get another mortgage (or be able to afford it especially if I lose my job).

What can I do to cut costs and get this thing over?

Situations like yours make my blood boil OP. I was i. The same position and eventually had to agree to the crap settlement ex offered as he had run me into the ground finanicially by never really giving me accurate financial information and so necessitating endless solicitors messages back and forth and the associated costs. He even had the audacity to accuse me of delaying things towards the end when I had spent over a year waiting for accurate financial info from him on various fronts.
He is a far higher earner, knew he could fuck me over if he played it right, my solicitor seemed useless and happily racked up the costs whilst seemingly doing bugger all.
it does feel like the system is rigged to the advantage of the higher earners in this scenario. So many women i know in the same boat. Its criminal really.