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Friend gossiping over my separation

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Mumfirst2 · 11/08/2023 19:24

I've really had enough, it's hard enough trying to move on with 2 kids living alone husband has got another house now. We're getting on for the kids sake. I am friends with his brothers girlfriend we go out and Continue to do so even though we aren't "sister in laws" anymore. As she has never really liked my husband anyway. So we found out that the cafe she works in is the topic of conversation on me and my husband on all aspects of our lives including personal stuff and about our separation. (Someone who goes in there told my husband) its her sister's cafe and her sister has never liked us. My husband's friend has warned us to be careful who we tell things to as we're the topic of conversation every time he goes in. I feel really betrayed and violated that things i have mentioned about my separation in confidence are now spoke about over a full english to complete strangers. I have never been in this cafe (like I said her sister doesn't like us) plus we have recently set up our own food business (before we split up) so a lot of talk is about that too. I don't know what to do now. Confront or cut off?? I said to my husband that he needs to be careful what he says to his brother too because he will be aware of this gossip and obviously doesn't care.

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Twazique · 11/08/2023 20:03

Keep your dignity!

ItsNotRocketSalad · 11/08/2023 20:07

Unless you broke up because he slept with your dad or murdered your gran, you really aren't going to be "the topic of conversation." Some stranger/acquantaince's divorce just isn't that interesting.

Be wary of the shit-stirrer who tried to make you paranoid about this and don't waste any more headspace on it.

Mumfirst2 · 11/08/2023 20:17

@ItsNotRocketSalad I mean I know she's a bit of a gossip but I didn't think she would talk about our personal lives / relationships especially in a cafe where no one knows us. His friend said literally on more than one occasion he goes in its us who are talked about. I just feel a bit violated, what's the point? Who cares? It's not interesting. But somehow we are being gossiped about. Very strange I don't see what he would gain from it by lying he's friends with them in there and were not so not as if he's trying to sabotage a friendship. I've just had enough either way lol

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ItsNotRocketSalad · 11/08/2023 22:05

I really wouldn't assume this friend is telling the truth. As you've said yourself, it's just not that interesting but he's got you believing these cafe workers stand there eight hours a day dissecting your life. It just doesn't make sense.

BeeBelle16 · 11/08/2023 22:11

In all honesty I have found very little- if anything at all- that we say is truly held in confidence

People talk about others in a way to make them feel better about their own situation

Stop telling people anything you don't want shared and maybe write it down in a diary or pay someone to speak to

Ultimately though it must be a very slow news day when someone splitting up is the only topic of chat in a cafe!

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