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Having a bad day

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Havingabadday2 · 09/08/2023 17:50

Just looking for a bit of hope I suppose.

Just finished sorting the financials after nearly 2 years while we’ve been living in the same house with him ignoring me completely (even in front of the kids). Had an offer accepted on a house. Should feel really positive.

But I’ve just completely crashed. I can’t stop crying. I can’t stop thinking about the good times, about how if I hadn’t left (which I did after he ignored me for 3 weeks and then I arranged counselling where he went on and on about how the problem is that I am abuser) then we might be on a lovely family holiday right now. I miss my kids when they are with him. I miss having someone. I’m lonely. I’m scared I’ll be alone forever (even though I can’t face ever being with someone and getting hurt again).

Sorry for the long post. I’ll be ok. But I’m tired of just being ok. I don’t want to be strong anymore.

Please share any stories of hope. Thank you.

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WhaleSharkBootySweat · 09/08/2023 17:55

@Havingabadday2 sending hugs. I completely understand how it just hits you out of the blue.
I understand all the mixed feelings, the regret, the relief, the uncertainty, the loneliness....
No change ever comes without pain.
You wouldn't have been a happy family and you know that really. Something wasn't right and you took action. That is to be commended.
You'll move on and these feelings will subside.

WhaleSharkBootySweat · 09/08/2023 17:56

Also your new house will be ready for you to make loads of new memories in, with your children and anyone new you meet.

Crazycrazylady · 09/08/2023 18:37

Totally normal to feel this way.. we are programmed to remember the good times and say we're the bad times really that bad. Yes they were, remember how you felt over that 3 weeks when he ignored you. Walking on egg shells etc . You have a whole new exciting chapter ahead of you. Embrace it

Flakey99 · 09/08/2023 19:44

Agree with others, those feelings of fear and regret are completely normal. It's ok to feel scared about the unknown.

Mine was 20yrs ago now and I look back and see how much better my life is now compared to then. To be honest, it improved rapidly within about 6 months after I moved out and changed jobs. 😊

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