Initial Appointment

[brooklyn11]

I have an initial appointment later today with a solicitor to see if they can help with getting my ex to cooperate regarding divorce, house and contact with the children.

We have been separated for 2 years but he won't move forward with anything and I've come to the realisation that he's never going to be reasonable unfortunately.

There is only 1 firm that deals with legal aid within my area so that is with whom I have an appointment with today. Does anyone know what the chances of getting legal aid usually are? There has been abuse both during the marriage and after separation. I work full time but I could not manage to afford the fees solicitors charge!!

Any words of advice about the actual appointment would be appreciated. I just want him out of my life. I can't cope with it anymore.
I do understand with having kids together he'll never be completely out of my life but I can't let him continue to try and have control over me anymore.

Go to ADVICE NOW”link at top of this board

advice now have loads of guides about process, but most critically for you, they have lists of solicitors who will just do specific tasks you want them to and at good rates, usually by phone call. You’ll have to do prep work needed but they’ll then give you the basic legal tasks you need

that may be more affordable to you

read the guides too, for all the bits, even send them to your stbex. They explain the processes, how to navigate the process, doing most of it yourself , and keeping costs down. They tell you what you must have solicitor for, what you might and where you don’t need one.

id also try to appeal to stbex common sense, to send guides to him and say please read. We can do this the hard, slow litigious route or we can just park the anger, and focus on getting the job done more quickly and cheaply. That way are remaining assets we each get won’t be spent on solicitors fees. At the end of the day, no amount of dragging heals, will stop this happening. Please read enclosed guides as I found them useful to understand the process and accept it had to be done.

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Sorry, I can’t give you more specific advice about how to get him to engage - it’s almost certainly that he knows he’ll be worse off and is burying head in ground to hope it all goes away and he can retain access to all the assets he currently has access to. that’s fear of the unknown- if he gets these guides in front of him in the post, he may just start to read and start to accept that change is coming and start to engage. Sometimes it takes people a long time to accept change

or it’s “just” a control thing over you