Mediation - mediator deemed unsuitable.

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I have attempted mediation relating matters relating to our children after several years after separation.

Both parties agreed to mediation and attended separate MIAMS but the mediator has returned to say she doesn't believe it suitable at this time.

What could this mean?

As not to drip feed there are historical issues surrounding DV though this wasn't an issue during my own MIAM (myself being the victim). I have been provided with a signed page 9 of the C100 to allow for a child arrangements order but terrified of this process also.

Any history of DV would raise the question of suitability. They might have considered that you were in a vulnerable position and not able to freely express yourself.

Some mediators will be more cautious than others depending on their experience.

Thank you, I had hoped to avoid court.

Terrified of the process as I know it'll rub him up the wrong way.

Could you try another mediator? I don't know if UK firms do this like they do here, maybe you can do mediation through a law firm. Though it's still expensive probably cheaper than court unless you self represent.
I was dreading getting told we didn't qualify for mediation, due to emotional and mental abuse from stbxh, but the mediator knows the issues and felt she could handle him. I'm terrified of doing mediation, but then I'm equally scared about court. I don't expect him to be abusive during the sessions as he never is in front of other people or at least not obviously, it's after I'm worried most about and if I'll get frozen, but I figure worst case.scenaeio I walk out, not that it won't smash me emotionally but that's going to happen no matter what. Stbxh will be just as nasty if we go to court, plus he'll be angry about the costs of court. We're still living under one roof, so I figure it's going to be horrible no matter what at least this is relatively cheap.

jumping on this old post.

anyone experienced this? What is the next step if mediation is deemed unsuitable?