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He filmed me...what is going on?

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Havingabadday2 · 26/07/2023 22:03

Getting divorced. Still in the same house. He has ignored me for over a year. Court process ongoing.

We have a timetable for who has the kids when, but it's been fine to give them a quick hug and say hi or bye if the other person is looking after them.

Today I came home from work. One DC was asleep already. He was getting the other ready for bed, but had popped out of the room, so I popped in to give her a very quick hug and say goodnight. Before I managed to, he had his phone out and was filming me and repeatedly saying "I need you to leave me alone". This was in front of DC who is 6. I left immediately, but am really upset.

There is a lot of backstory of him being emotionally abusive, but what is going on here? Is he going to use the video for something? Can he really behave like this in front of the kids? I feel so upset and confused. I just want to understand what is going on.

Just looking for any support/advice really.

OP posts:
Appleofmyeye2023 · 29/07/2023 12:57

Ok, I did check, no it’s not illegal if for his personal use…and he could even use in court as long as you and your solicitors have seen the evidience first.

so looks like the only way is to document everything or start recording back

iamenough2023 · 30/07/2023 00:15

I would say he wants to "prove" that you are disturbing him during "his" time with this kids. It is strange he is doing this considering that you both agreed that it is ok for both of you to do this. What is really sad is how some people men can be so insensitive and selfish and do stuff like this without thinking how this can affect his own child. This kind of behavior sickens me. Hang in there OP, hopefully you and your children can soon leave this toxic environment.

LesLavandes · 30/07/2023 00:23

Legal peeps don't want to view videos in a divorce

OhcantthInkofaname · 30/07/2023 03:48

So you're sharing childcare. But you're supposed to ignore your child when it's his time to be primary? That doesn't even seem realistic.

Somewhereovertherainbowweighapie · 30/07/2023 04:09

Can you get another phone or device like thing you can have on you discreetly recording on you while he is around? Maybe in a pocket with the camera still able to be used somehow?

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